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Connie Jo
08-12-2010, 08:24 PM
I haven't won the war, but I won a HUGE battle this week! As of tomorrow, I'm told my truck is once again insured! I should be receiving a confirmation email with certificate of insurance any time...I hope. There's more good news too, yet again some prayers have been answered!! Thank you to my friends here who contributed to praying on my behalf. Please keep praying however, I still need prayer! :)

Here is what happened, have patience reading, there's much to explain in this chapter of 'as my world turns' drama, haha. I'll begin a 'story post' below this one, haha. :D

I'M SO HAPPY!!!!! YEEHAW!!! I've not had my own transportation since MAY!
:yahoo:

stricken721
08-12-2010, 08:34 PM
GREAT NEWS!!! That's awesome CJ. :bananen_smilies046:

Connie Jo
08-12-2010, 08:54 PM
"As My World Turns"! :)
 
Throughout the last 3 1/2 years, with exception of my kids, closest family & friends...I've remained fairly silent publicly about what was occurring behind closed doors in depth with my husband, now x-husband since asking him to move out the first of April 2009, filing for divorce soon after. I suppose my silence was a matter of self respect, as well as respect for others, not involving them. My family & closest friends have often told me I need to stop covering for him, letting him get away with my living out here for months with his not obeying court orders, struggling in many ways.

With my being isolated, 35 miles from the small town & rural community we're known in, where we built a life, my former business' and his business were located...he could easily get away with lying. I've been told often by my kids, close friends, he was doing exactly that. Once common friends would see him, ask him how I was doing, he would lie. He'd tell them I was doing good and was well taken care of with his being court ordered to pay me back investment compensation, and maintenance until the house was sold, I could move to a more financially feasible location, etc..

A couple weeks ago I posted some photo's of my home in a Facebook album, specifically for some friends on FB who are regional real estate agents in Missouri & Kansas, with their offering to help me try and sell my house. A continuing FB conversation began among my friends & I...within photo comments of that particular album. It was during this conversation I began to reveal more in depth the truth of what was occurring behind the screen...including my truck not being insured, my x disobeying court orders, asking for prayers. That conversation also led to the inspiration for me to post a thread here, also asking for prayers. It was a relief in some aspects to open up, ask for help with prayer. With feeling relief, since then I no longer "cover up"...if someone asks me to go somewhere I respectfully tell them why I can't...rather than simply say I'm sorry I can't go, and so on.

Some Facebook friends are local friends...they read the conversing comments among friends a couple weeks ago in the FB photo album mentioned above. My x-husband has lost the respect & friendship of most our once mutual friends, as a result of his changed personality...their saying when they run into him he's "weird", "not right", "odd", "emotionless", "distant", "don't know him now". I've heard it all, but have known this for over 3 yrs....I would simply & respectively agree, change the subject if possible, not elaborate further...that is until a couple weeks ago.

Last week I was told my 'x' bought his current live in girlfriend a diamond ring a month or so ago. She fell off the wagon with her alcohol & drug recovery late last summer, so my 'x' decided since then, that he would escort her to bars, rather than have her go on her own, get into trouble. Basically, as my kids say..."he babysits her"..."keeps her on a tight leash". He has to, to prevent her from driving drunk, messing around with other guys, etc.. The weekend before last, they were seen out and about bar hopping, some of our once mutual friends ran into them. His girlfriend, intoxicated, began to tell of future plans they have to fly to Vegas and marry, flaunting her diamond ring...he has said he will be her 6th or 7th husband, he's not sure, haha. From what I've been told, this appalled some friends, since they were now aware of my circumstances with his not obeying court orders, my struggles financially, no legal transportation, etc.. Rumors around town began to spread quickly of all circumstances related, of which the 'x' became embarrassed by, according to my daughter.

Adding to his humiliation, and apparently a bit of conscience remaining...was his seeing me by odd coincidence Monday morning. My son picked me up, I rode to town with him on his way to work. He dropped me off at Walmart, where I planned to meet OPlookn from Chiefs Crowd, our driving from there to Chiefs camp in St. Joe. It was about 7:15 AM, I was standing on the sidewalk in front of Walmart, saw my 'x' pull into the parking lot near where I was standing. He's not legally allowed near me due to his abusive tendencies, so I've not seen or spoke to him since the first of January, when our divorce became finalized. I could tell by his facial expressions and body language, he was not only surprised to see me, but it hurt him. I felt bad for him, he spoke weakly to me, but I turned away, didn't respond...he let me be, went on his way. I was terrified, shaking inside when I saw him, sick to my stomach...never knowing what he might do to hurt me. The physical abuse ceased after he moved out, so I'm not concerned about that aspect as much now, rather his verbal/emotional/financial abuses. I felt a huge relief when he didn't come closer after I turned away, and he left me be.

Whatever happened to my x-husband mentally as a result of his heart attack scare Feb. 7th, not only caused him to become unstable, someone we don't know or recognize, but his memory was also affected. He lost many of his memories, and his long term memory is impaired as well. The Dr's say it could also be a result of alcohol induced dementia, since he turned to alcohol excessively to relieve severe panic attacks after his death scare. He even suffered alcohol poisoning in Feb. 2008, a year after his personality began changing. I suppose when he doesn't see me it makes it easier for him to 'forget' I exist, considering all, including his memory issues..."out of sight out of mind" so to speak. With his seeing me it triggered within him emotion of guilt, humiliation, a bit of conscience...obvious from his expressions & body language. As well, apparent from learning later of his call to my daughter shortly after seeing me. These feelings were stirred on top of his humiliation with once friends & associates learning about my struggling situation as a result of his disobeying court orders, his girlfriends flaunting her new diamond ring, etc..

While I was in St. Joe at camp Monday, my daughter called and told me her dad had called her, somewhat upset...telling her he saw me at Walmart, tried to speak, but I turned away. He also quizzed her about my being at Walmart so early in the morning, standing on the curb. She told him why, and also became upset with him...asking him why was he upset with my turning away, what did he expect after all he's done and continues to do. My kids were a bit upset as well, that I had made plans to travel out of town with someone I'd met on the internet, didn't know as well as they felt I should've...so scolded their dad about that also, blaming it on my not having transportation due to his not obeying court orders & neglect. My kids aren't accustom to interacting socially on the internet like I've been the last several years, aren't as trusting in my instincts as I am, haha. I often feel as though I'm the child, they're the parents...but I'd rather have them concerned about me than not. They're not use to mom being 'solo' either, haha. :)

Well, as a result of all circumstances above taking place this past week or so...Tuesday my 'x' informed my daughter he would have my truck insured by the end of the week. He contacted the insurance company he has a small business liability coverage with, added my truck to that policy somehow. I still have concerns that in the future he will not pay the premuims, as his guilt will lesson in time, memory of all the above leaving his thought of conscience. I wanted control with my own separate policy, however, I'm grateful for what I have. What this blessing does is reinstate me as being an insured motorist...so in the meantime I can set aside money, hopefully...to obtain my own policy at an affordable premium once again in the near future.

:yahoo:

Connie Jo
08-12-2010, 08:57 PM
GREAT NEWS!!! That's awesome CJ. :bananen_smilies046:

I was in tears of happiness when my daughter called to confirm, that she went with her dad to the insurance company and witnessed his paying the premium, signing the necessary paperwork to insure my truck!! I can drive myself again when I need to go places...though I limit my driving to conserve fuel, not being able to afford to waste money going places not important or necessary.

This means I can drive my Chiefs truck to MNF!!! I consider that to be a worthy fuel cost, haha. :)

Connie Jo
08-12-2010, 09:42 PM
Oh, the other blessing of good news! I received a call today from Kansas Legal Services/Aid. Within the last couple weeks I had emailed at their request, a copy of my divorce decree, all court orders, bank account records, etc.. Also, evidence of abuse, including photo's...which was very difficult for me to do, as doing so triggered painful memories, but they requested it. As well, a brief history of what all occurred during 2007-2009, as well as continues today related to his disobeying court orders, etc..

A good friend on the West Coast is a crisis counselor, related to domestic abuse/violence specifically. I had confided in her during 2007 after my x became abusive, not knowing what to do. She advised me of course to leave the marriage, which for many reasons I wouldn't do then, including not wanting to forsake my vows...'for better or worse, in sickness & health'...knowing my husband was ill. She told me to take photo's of my injuries, hide them in a folder on my PC...likely herself being a professional realizing, though I didn't then, that the situation would only worsen in time, just as it did. I have ER hospital records also, related to injuries and illness I suffered during 2007-2008 as a result of my x husbands abuses.

I have witness', including DR's...& a scorned x girlfriend he had an affair with, supported financially off & on again in 2007-2008, but broke off angrily after he learned she was having an affair for financial gain with two other men at the same time. I have other witness' related to his various abuses over the last 3+ years...physical, emotional, sexual, and financial.

Well, after reviewing everything I emailed them they requested, the legal intern I've been speaking with called me today. She told me that they are talking with two attorney's of whom there is a good possibility will represent me pro bono, no charge. She also said, that if for some reason one of those attorney's can't represent me...their supervising attorney said they would! One way or another...I was given their word I will be represented against my 'x' with all that he has done, & continues to do illegally to harm my overall well being, abusively & with criminal neglect.

I have very upsetting feelings about all this, and am not happy about being forced to do what I have to do for my current & future well being overall, but I am relieved to know I will have legal representation to bring all this hopefully to an end.

Chiefster
08-13-2010, 01:39 AM
Connie, it's late and this old man is tired, so I haven't read the whole story, but I just wanted to tell ya that it is so good to here kiddo! :D

...Prayers continue!

God bless!

Connie Jo
08-13-2010, 02:08 AM
Connie, it's late and this old man is tired, so I haven't read the whole story, but I just wanted to tell ya that it is so good to here kiddo! :D

...Prayers continue!

God bless!

Thanks! It's okay, I don't expect ya to read the story as to why I'll have insurance again, haha. The most important thing is I will!! hahaha

I was just so excited, since I've not been able to drive myself in my truck anywhere since May, that I began typing away in that excitement events taking place that led up to my being able to have truck insurance again, haha. :D

N TX Dave
08-13-2010, 12:03 PM
Well this maybe a step in righting your life and being able to enjoy yourself and life again here's hoping they continue in a positive direction and may God continue to bless you.

Know you are on many peoples minds and that they are saying many prayers for you. Remember you are loved by many as well as our Father more than you will ever know.

Connie Jo
08-13-2010, 05:34 PM
Well this maybe a step in righting your life and being able to enjoy yourself and life again here's hoping they continue in a positive direction and may God continue to bless you.

Know you are on many peoples minds and that they are saying many prayers for you. Remember you are loved by many as well as our Father more than you will ever know.

Oh, thanks so much, and I'm grateful more than you know, haha. A copy of the valid insurance card was emailed to me earlier from the insurance agent...so I know it's legit! Definitely a HUGE step forward for me in many ways! I couldn't even continue applying for any feasible jobs without legal transportation!

tammietailgator
08-14-2010, 11:52 AM
Yeah Connie!!! I know I have not been on here for a longtime but I have kept up with you on FB and my prayers continue for you and your positive direction! Cannot wait to see you sporting that cool truck again!

Connie Jo
08-14-2010, 09:18 PM
Yeah Connie!!! I know I have not been on here for a longtime but I have kept up with you on FB and my prayers continue for you and your positive direction! Cannot wait to see you sporting that cool truck again!

Well, I began to open up the last month more in depth, about what's been happening the last several months...beyond the common & typical, "going through a divorce", "one day at a time, I'm okay"...comments of course. It appears my opening up was more beneficial to me than simply emotional release, considering 'he' was benefiting & taking advantage of my efforts to respectively keep the truth hidden for the most part.

I drove my truck again today for the first time since early May to Walmart in Holton. I know it's silly, likely I'm too sentimental over a damn truck...but when I pulled out of my garage...the tears fell, hahaha. It wasn't until I was on my way back home I thought to crank up Kid Rock on the stereo...my thoughts were elsewhere I guess prior to that, haha.
:punk:

Oh, and thank you Tammie. :)

tornadospotter
08-14-2010, 10:45 PM
CJ, so glad you have your life back in your hands, at least transportation wise, I will keep praying for you, and your family, but I also am going to pray for your ex-husband, I think he needs prayers also.

Chiefster
08-15-2010, 03:15 AM
Thanks! It's okay, I don't expect ya to read the story as to why I'll have insurance again, haha. The most important thing is I will!! hahaha

I was just so excited, since I've not been able to drive myself in my truck anywhere since May, that I began typing away in that excitement events taking place that led up to my being able to have truck insurance again, haha. :D

...Nothin wrong with enthusiasm kiddo! :D

Connie Jo
08-16-2010, 01:28 AM
CJ, so glad you have your life back in your hands, at least transportation wise, I will keep praying for you, and your family, but I also am going to pray for your ex-husband, I think he needs prayers also.

I've been keeping him in my prayers for damn near 40 years, haha...haven't stopped praying for him, regardless of the permanent damage & evil he's brought to all our lives.

All God will do is guide each of us through his various methods of guidance. It's up to us to follow his guidance, as God allows us 'free will'. His soul has been lost for over 3 years, maybe longer...he said once, that he lost his heart & soul in that hospital back in Feb. 2007...I have no doubt he did.

Thanks TS, because yes...he needs prayer for his soul to be saved before he's facing his judgement day.

Chiefster
08-17-2010, 08:59 PM
CJ, so glad you have your life back in your hands, at least transportation wise, I will keep praying for you, and your family, but I also am going to pray for your ex-husband, I think he needs prayers also.

Absolutely TS, absolutely!