Sad, but fairly true. I have know idea why - except we like a challenge, but all my husband does is sleep and eat... I do love him dearly - but it also gives me something to complain about. :) Actually, I didn't even get anything for Christmas :(
She told me that the reason she liked me was because I was a challenge.
She said if I did everything she said, and let her get away with things it was boring.
It was a real eye opener.
I don't actually condone abuse (physical, or mental) but Groucho Marx put it best:
"I wouldn't join any club that would have me as a member."
Dont get me wrong - My husband can be nice.... keep in mind guys... after marriage you can get soooooo much love from your wife if you simply do the dishes, laundry, clean the bathroom. Of course he is still paying for Christmas
Pretty appropriate advice coming in a thread called "Bobby Knight" heh! The way he treats everyone I'm sure he is definitely a challenge for his wife - AND I'm sure he'd never let ANYONE ELSE treat his wife like crap!
There's an insight too. If my woman complains I shouldn't necessarily worry take that as a bad sign, eh. It's like I always try to make sure her feedback is positive. But my ex fiance did actually say once, "We females like to go fishing or camping with our guys cuz then we can complain." :lol:
How else is she gonna know you really love her and are interested in her? (OHHH by treating her like crap HEH!).
But getting back to the challenge thing. Maybe that's where the "absence makes the heart grow fonder" comes in too. One time for instance, I was sweet on a female co-worker and kept visiting her as much as I could, including stopping by to see her to say goodbye before I went home. But then she started to get more distant and unenthusiastic. So I didn't stop to say bye for a few days. Then she said, "How come you don't come see me before you go home anymore?" I said, "Oh sorry, I didn't know if you wanted me too." She said, "Of course I want you too!" ;)
2 other important rules I've been told:
(1) Make them laugh. Women like to laugh.
(They especially seem delighted when you make them laugh by complimenting them in a humorous way. Then you are making them laugh and simulateously communicating to them that they are attractive).
(2) If they ever ask, "I look fat, don't I?" you NEVER NEVER say , "Yes"!
I remember a line from a movie when I was younger.
I think it might have been "Blind Date" or something.
An older brother gave some advice to his younger brother, Ethan Hawke.
He said "Treat 'em good, treat 'em bad, it doesn't make a difference... just pay attention to them."
Kind of appropriate, I would say.