Falling in line.

[honda522]

Yep, the threat of another girl is here. Last semester I liked this girl and she just didn't wanna be there, so she didn't pay attention to anyone.

This semester I met a great girl. I think we might be made for each other. I don't know but things are looking good.

First we were kinda forced into the same group for our project, fine with me cause I was hoping I could work with her. We had to chose a group to be in and by the time the list came around there was only one left.

Its a shame we only have the class once week. I added her to facebook, which I really don't use but...the next time we had class, she turned around and asked if it was me who added her. I told yea, and she said she didn't recognize the picture and gave a little laugh. Now I am not good looking by any means.

So yesterday she comes and sits down and ask me if she sat somewhere different. I replayed, well you normally sit one up but its not going to make a difference. The difference was she sitting one seat in front of me vs. sitting next to me. Then she told me how when she was talking to me the other day, she lost her voice. Completely irrelevant.

These have to be signs! Its only a matter of time. Though it cant be too long, Valentines day is just a few days away.

[tornadospotter]

I dont approach people, but when I sit there, I cross my arms, and keep the same face...usually nothing to be happy about, nor sad. So my facial expression never changes. I think people are intimadated by that.

I am not that some one that keeps a smile on my face all the time, I think that is fake, but I do light up and smile and laugh when talking to people. You may need to come out of your shell, try to smile, do not try to just blend in, put yourself out there, have faith in you, believe in yourself, if you do not, nobody else will.

[Connie Jo]

Yea, well I normally just don't smile.

But today I asked her if she was doing anything for Valentines Day. She said she had plans to go to the movies with some buddies. I said thats too bad, I was going to see if you wanted to go do anything this weekend.

She said, I don't think so, I am pretty busy with school and work. She made it sound like it was on going, as in not just this weekend.

I am not that some one that keeps a smile on my face all the time, I think that is fake, but I do light up and smile and laugh when talking to people. You may need to come out of your shell, try to smile, do not try to just blend in, put yourself out there, have faith in you, believe in yourself, if you do not, nobody else will.

I couldn't have put it better than TS did! Words of wisdom indeed! :)

I don't naturally wear a smile either...others make me smile. I try to surround myself with those I know who make me smile, & tend to avoid those who make me frown, haha.

You seem to have many great personality traits Honda...from what I've been able to gather posting with you...including a sense of humor at times. Most girls I know are attracted to a guy with a sense of humor.

I wouldn't give up on her just yet. It could be a bit of low self esteem on your part, since she declined for the weekend...affecting your judgement with thinking her tone indicated she'd be busy beyond the weekend. She did give a further explanation than "I'm busy"...a good sign IMO.

It's difficult on the internet when you only know someone through a PC, and you don't know the second party at all, to give advice. Best any of us can do is speculate based upon our own life experiences.

If you believe you intimidate people for whatever reason, & you've been thinking you need to change that about yourself, well, most times our inner feelings are right. It's a good trait when we can recognize what we may need to change in our personalities. Many people can't do that...rather are only capable of seeing changes they think others need to make for their happiness.

You mentioned earlier you usually didn't have anything to be happy about...well, that's usually not the case for most. We just have to be willing to look at what we do have more positively, rather than what we don't have negatively. I hope that makes sense, sometimes I don't word things as I'm thinking, haha.

[Canada]

Honda...you need to relax and lighten up man. I dont mean any offense by this but you seem pretty tightly wound. Stop worrying about finding a girl. Go out and have fun. You say u never smile and just sit around with your arms crossed. If u think that is intimidating people, then stop doing it. Go somewhere and do something that makes you smile. When you smile, u have relax, and when u relax u have fun. Once you are out doing something that is fun and relaxing, you are bound to meet someone. They will be out doing the same thing as you (similar interests) and you are relaxed (easier to talk to people) and you are having fun so you dont look like the angry guy sitting in the corner. If you keep "looking" for love, you will settle for someone. Let that someone find you!!