Originally Posted by
Connie Jo
As far as my 'x'...he was a good guy overall. He had faults, just as we all do, but his good outweighed his bad. Whatever happened to him in that hospital back in Feb. 2007, caused his bad to completely takeover. Dr's said he was clinically depressed when symptoms surfaced in the beginning, but he turned to Jim Beam daily to relieve symptoms, he claimed, which only intensified & complicated symptoms.
They think now, based upon his irrational & irresponsible behavior, destructive lifestyle choices, multiple personalities...he's beyond clinical depression, rather mentally unstable, possibly genetic. Schizophrenia runs in his family & is hereditary.
I know this is his own fault...he knew he had problems, didn't do what he could've & should've to help himself, still doesn't. My kids say once in a great while when they see him, there will be a shimmer of the dad they once knew, but it doesn't last long. They say he's weird, strange, emotionless, cold & distant, don't recognize him...completely different. He's not allowed near me, I've not seen or spoke to him since the first of January, nor do I want to.
My kids have told me to do what I need to do for my well being, and said maybe if he's legally held accountable, it will wake him up to reality, help him seek help. I hope he will someday, for his own sake & our kids...but I'll never be able to go back...too much damage, no trust, my love died. He tried reconciling a few times last year...it was too little too late, nor do I believe he was sincere or remorseful...simply more attempts to manipulate, control, & use me for his self benefit.
When he realized I could no longer be manipulated, controlled & bullied...began to rebuild & enjoy life without him...is when he began to "punish" me by disobeying court orders. When I followed through with the divorce...the more he disobeyed court orders, he doesn't obey a single one, not one.
He knows I can't afford to relocate until the house sells...which allows him some control, thats why he won't agree to drop the selling price. He's not rational, in self denial, doesn't realize he's cutting off his nose to spite his face making selling the house difficult.
Hopefully Legal Aid will be successful helping me, all I can do is hope & pray, keep suriviving one day at a time! :)
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