God first...thank you Father.
Much has transpired in my life since Wednesday of this week. Important life saving prayers have been answered. I'm moving to the Kansas City area as soon as closing is complete in December with having sold my house recently. As of today, I've begun looking & considering options for a place to move to.
I have two potential buyers, both committed legally with signed offers. One has obtained financing & is someone I don't know, beyond showing him the house twice through realtors. The second offer is pending financing approval. The second is a bit higher & better for sentimental reasons...which I'll reveal once their financing is secured. Their offer will be accepted provided they obtain immediate financing, if not, the first offer becomes valid.
My attorney & I had a first court appearance Wednesday, day before Thanksgiving...taking my x husband to court charging him with multiple contempts violating court orders & state laws. We're also asking the judge to issue an order allowing me to sell the house at a price less than the unrealistic price my x insisted upon. According to our daughter, my x was raging when served the petition to appear in court. He's gotten away with so much for so long, & without any one standing up to him, he didn't think I would do it. He said even if I did ever take him to court, the courts wouldn't do anything to him, that they didn't care. I worried he might be right, but now know he was wrong.
Before court he made indimidating threats using our daughter. He made her call & tell me this or that threatening. His using our daughter as a tool is coming to an end also. She's been looking for a full time job, hopefully soon won't be working for her dad at his failing business, failing due to his own self destructive personality & lifestyle. She's down to only working for him a couple days a week. One threat was to tell me he hired an attorney & would prevent my completing the sale of the house. He said I'd lose & lose everything if I went to court. What he doesn't understand, is unlike himself, money & materialism mean little to me. My taking him to court wasn't about being vindictive, nor about money & materialism...it was about saving my very life. I had nothing to lose but my life if I didn't take him to court.
Wednesday was a difficult day, but God was beside me providing courage & strength. The judge "put the hammer down on my x husband", according to my attorney. I couldn't hear well what the judge said to my x and his atty, but the judge was upset with all he's done to harm me by voilating court orders & state laws. The judge ordered a continuence giving my x until December 7th to make the right decisions without facing his punishment for contempt & violation of state laws. My x had no evidence of innocence, there is none because all claims of contempt & violations against him were true & easily documented.
The judge told my x if he didn't agree to sign the contract to sell the house, that he would not only award me the sole right to sell the house, but also award me full equity, of which he told my 'x' he may end up doing on the 7th, regardless, due to all the contempts & violations of state law by my 'x'. He also told him he could give him jail time.
My x showed his arrogant & hostile personality at the courthouse when it was over & didn't go his way. I felt nothing towards him...no fear, no love, no anger, no hate...nothing. He became someone 4 yrs ago I've never known. It felt good to feel nothing, other than I feel sadness for his soul lost. I pray someday he'll find inner peace, though I doubt he will. Each of us is given a key to life...the same key opens the gates to heaven or gates to hell. My x opened the gates to hell, I fear his soul's lost forever.
He's scared after the judge "put the hammer down", he's been calling both of our kids since Wednesday night, asking them to talk to me and let me know, that he will agree to sell the house willingly for the price I've sold it for...and sign the contracts before returning to court on the 7th. We will still return to court on the 7th, to finalize all pending contempts & violations legally. I have good reason not to trust him.
To Chiefster, TS, and others struggling in various ways: I keep you in my prayers...keep the faith, prayers will be answered in Gods time, and only he knows why. I now understand why I've faced and endured many of the struggles I have...the reasons have been made clear, and no doubt God knew what was best. The path made crooked by mankinds freewill, has been under Gods construction the last 4 years...it's nearing completion now, once again a path made straight by Gods will. ♥ ┼