I married following high school graduation, at 17. Many married after school back then, it wasn’t considered young in 1972. We met & began dating at 15. We didn’t have kids right away, our daughter was born when I was 20, our son at 22…they’re now 34 & 32! In a blink of an eye I lost at least 20 yrs!! haha
My husband was my best friend, and I his…for 34 of our 37 yrs of marriage. Our personalities complemented one anothers in most ways. We had our differences, as all couples do, but the good memories far outweighed any bad. I’m blessed to have had 34 years of marital happiness and love.
After his heart attack scare Feb. 2007, something went wrong with his wiring, the clinical depression made him someone I didn’t know, nor did our kids and friends. He was someone else in my husbands body. Lord knows I tried for 2 yrs…but, you can’t help someone who won’t put forth the effort to help
themself.
The divorce was hard, but it was a matter of my emotional and physical well being and necessary…my husband understood that, so did our family. Our divorce wasn’t ‘ugly’, and though we don’t talk often, having moved on…we remain ‘friends’ on some level.
He use to ask me for advice related to his emotional and life issues, including his problems with current live in girlfriend, hahaha. I finally told him he was gonna have to figure it for himself, cause I just couldn’t advise him on his girlfriend problems, haha. He mixed himself up with a bad gal, and doesn’t know how to get out now. He told me & the kids, “her book of bad life deeds is full”. I’ll spare y’all the details from that point.
Marriage is work, a full time job & then some on both sides. It takes two willing to compromise and make an effort…only one participating usually ends up bad. Mutual respect in every aspect for sure.
The rewards and blessings of marriage can’t be compared to those of being single…not in my opinion. I miss my best friend, I miss many things marriage brings to one’s life, but…I know I’m where God wants me to be. It’s in God’s hands whether or not I will have another best friend in life. If not, I know God will always be my best friend. 